Things to Avoid Saying to People Who are Grieving

It’s one of those unfortunate facts of life that it’s easy for people to put their feet in their mouths. Oftentimes, it’s done rather innocently, but the harm caused to the recipient of some poorly chosen words can make foot-in-mouth situations rather uncomfortable for everyone involved. It’s good to remember the power of words the next time you prepare to attend an Anna, OH cremation service, funeral service or memorial service because certain things said, even if there’s zero ill-will, can have a damaging impact on the person you’re trying to comfort.  

Here are some things you need to avoid saying to a grieving person since they might not be as well received as you would like.  

At Least She Lived a Long Life 

It’s easy to see why you might think that such words would be a good thing to say to someone who’s grieving a loss, but these words might not be so well-received by the griever. If you say something like this, it’s almost as though you’re telling the person that they have nothing to complain about since the deceased had lived a full life. Yes, some people live a rather short life, which means it’s a blessing to live a full, long life. But avoid saying anything that might appear to be dismissive of the pain that someone else is feeling.  

You Can Always Get Married Again 

Wow! Where to begin with such a thoughtless thing to say. And, yes, there are some well-meaning people who might think that such words will comfort someone whose spouse has just been cremated. The marital bond can be a very strong one, and the grieving process can take a long time. The mourner obviously knows that they can get married again down the road. But before they seriously entertain such a thing, they will need a lot of time to mourn and heal.   

I Understand How You Feel 

Even if you, too, have recently experienced the pain caused by a death in the family, you will never be in a position to truly understand how someone else feels. And no one else will never be in a position to know how you feel. You know how you feel and you can empathize with how another feels, but make no mistake – it’s impossible to know how someone else feels.  

Hopefully, you’ll avoid saying anything that causes pain to anyone grieving a loss in the family. At Eley Funeral Home & Crematory, we have a reputation not only for saying the right things to grieving people who need our help, but also for doing the right things to help them plan cremation services in Anna, OH. Our goal is to be a source of healing experiences in the community, and we’ve built a strong reputation for doing just that. Allow us to help you with the big and small decisions as you plan final services for someone you love. You can reach us by phone at (419) 738-7676 or stop by our office at 1102 Lincoln Ave, Wapakoneta, OH 45895.